I continue to recover, especially after having just spent four days, including my birthday, with my friend Art Giser on a health and vitality workshop he was running in London.
As I surface again, I can feel an old familiar tension in me. I know I have been incubating a new leadership project for several years and have allowed some small aspects of it out. And I can notice that old familiar voice that says, “You are still not quite ready to go fully live!” I feel sure you know that voice too.
I do believe we need some preparation. A child takes nine months to be ready to be born, but if it wasn’t born after soon that time, it would probably damage itself and its mother, probably die.
For me, the real skill and art is to recognise that time when I am actually ready to birth a new project, and when it actually it is merely my resistance, my stories and my own fear that are the real issue. There is a time when I have done enough incubation and gestation and it is time to give birth.
The bottom line for me is remembering that I don’t need to be ready to take on and implement the whole project now. I just need to be willing, bold, brave or audacious enough to take the next step or two. Usually the steps that really scare me.
So for two decades, one of my philosophies has been to simply take baby steps. I know I can be much more comfortable delaying and procrastinating, waiting for that mythical day when I hope I might feel confident enough and ready enough. Rarely does that day ever come. I just have to get on and start anyway.
I have seen over and again my own internal dynamic becoming “over ripe” or “over pregnant”, not letting my gifts out, preparing but not starting projects.
Even when a child is born, it takes years to gradually evolve and develop into a grown up. Maybe our projects aren’t supposed to be born as grown-ups, but as babies that grow and develop at their own pace. But the important element is to give birth in the first place. We are here to give birth to them and remain parents to those projects, and steward them in to their maturity.
I think in writing this, I have talked myself into being bolder and braver and taking some important steps in bringing my new leadership project in to this world.
what are your pregnant with that it is ready to give birth to? I would love to hear.